Just the other day I had a realization - sometimes we joke "How can we really have yet another realization."....but we do!
It was during the time my heart went out to my friends in Ukraine because of the opposition they were getting because they were American (Thanks for praying..they had a GREAT court date and they should be coming home with him this month! Yeah God!). I remember some negative words about American's when we went. Sometimes I can understand, but for the most part, I wish most people's hearts would soften towards American's that are taking time off, vacation time, time without pay, to cross over the ocean and spend 2 months trying to bring home "new-older-babies"..that for some reason, they are "in love with" because they just want to help them, and add to their family....
Anyway, my realization came because I realized that to the extent that I was "in love" with my children, living off of adrenaline and the Holy Spirit to keep me excited to be there despite my children trying to bond with other parents, say disrespectful things about me in Ukranian, wanting to go live with different parents, being away from my own family for 2 weeks, all alone with kids that can basically not understand me....all the time wanting to be their mom, wanting to trust them, thinking they are so wonderful, loving, kind, funny, etc...let's say "positive infinity"....
During my positive infinity........they had "negative infinity"...not necessarily outwardly because it was the "honeymoon" period...but inwardly...."don't want to obey, don't tell the truth, do sneaky things, hate being with this family that has rules, need to "get out", spread lies about me, etc"......
Now....THANK-GOD...I'm not at one end of the number line, and they are not at the other....however....I wish I had saved up some of my "positive energy" for now, because, now the kids are coming around...but I'm nearing neutral...with I had started neutral...and went the same direction they did....
The Third factor......YOU...thank-you for keeping us in your prayers, reminding us of grace, reminding us of compassion....and forgiveness..and His goodness toward all of us. YOU are what makes the whole "equation" balance out....
Love from Alesia & Chris
PS...Jonathan's team won tonight 8-2....Jaclyn has the ACT tomorrow....I think a couple sisters made it right tonight, kids lied to me about stuff...I cried for awhile (all the little things added up)...just another normal day...off to Popp-it....
It was during the time my heart went out to my friends in Ukraine because of the opposition they were getting because they were American (Thanks for praying..they had a GREAT court date and they should be coming home with him this month! Yeah God!). I remember some negative words about American's when we went. Sometimes I can understand, but for the most part, I wish most people's hearts would soften towards American's that are taking time off, vacation time, time without pay, to cross over the ocean and spend 2 months trying to bring home "new-older-babies"..that for some reason, they are "in love with" because they just want to help them, and add to their family....
Anyway, my realization came because I realized that to the extent that I was "in love" with my children, living off of adrenaline and the Holy Spirit to keep me excited to be there despite my children trying to bond with other parents, say disrespectful things about me in Ukranian, wanting to go live with different parents, being away from my own family for 2 weeks, all alone with kids that can basically not understand me....all the time wanting to be their mom, wanting to trust them, thinking they are so wonderful, loving, kind, funny, etc...let's say "positive infinity"....
During my positive infinity........they had "negative infinity"...not necessarily outwardly because it was the "honeymoon" period...but inwardly...."don't want to obey, don't tell the truth, do sneaky things, hate being with this family that has rules, need to "get out", spread lies about me, etc"......
Now....THANK-GOD...I'm not at one end of the number line, and they are not at the other....however....I wish I had saved up some of my "positive energy" for now, because, now the kids are coming around...but I'm nearing neutral...with I had started neutral...and went the same direction they did....
The Third factor......YOU...thank-you for keeping us in your prayers, reminding us of grace, reminding us of compassion....and forgiveness..and His goodness toward all of us. YOU are what makes the whole "equation" balance out....
Love from Alesia & Chris
PS...Jonathan's team won tonight 8-2....Jaclyn has the ACT tomorrow....I think a couple sisters made it right tonight, kids lied to me about stuff...I cried for awhile (all the little things added up)...just another normal day...off to Popp-it....
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